Caring For Students - I Received A Bullying Letter


I Received A Bullying Letter

I received a letter about my child bullying. What does this mean?

If you received a letter, it's because your child has been showing bullying behaviour. They would have been given a chance to stop it without a consequence but they have kept the behaviour up and it has been referred to the year adviser, Head Teacher Student Welfare or Deputy Principal. The aim of this letter is to stop the behaviour before it becomes a major issue and gets out of proportion. It is also to get parents involved and informed at an early stage instead of at a stage when the consequences are more serious. It is everybody's chance to stop the problem before it gets bigger. Parents are always welcome to discuss any issues they have by contacting the school.


What does the School do with a bullying report?

Our process involves a transparent series of letters and consequences that increase in intervention as the bullying behaviour escalates. While all staff are responsible to act on bullying, the formal process is managed by :
Stage 1: The Year Adviser
Stage 2: The Head Teacher of Student Welfare
Stage 3: The Deputy Principal
Stage 4: The Deputy Principal / Principal

At each stage of the process:

  • The teacher who recieves the report will investigate it and make a decision about whether the incident is one requiring the bullying process or mediation.
  • The year adviser sends a letter to the parents of the bully and the person being bullied. A copy of this is kept in the Student Welfare Database.
  • We can organise support for both parties if needed.
  • A consequence is given to the bully that is in line with their actions. These increase in severity as subsequent reports are made.
  • Worksheets are given to the bully to complete at home and hand into the year adviser.

Strategies For Parents

  • We encourage parents who get this letter to talk with their child about the behaviour and to discourage it from happening anymore.
  • Help them to fill in the worksheets they have been given on bullying and remind the student to hand them into the year adviser.
  • It is also an opportunity to find out if your child is being bullied as well or if there are other issues going on at school or elsewhere. This should be reported to the year adviser.
  • Encourage your child to get involved in something that will occupy them at times when they get caught up in bullying. e.g. sport, music, different group of friends.
  • Give the student an opportunity to stop the bully behaviour but let them know there will be a reasonable consequence at school and at home if they don't stop.
  • Follow through on a reasonable consequence. It may have been negotiated at the time of the 1st letter. It is also good to negotiate another consequence if the behaviour continues.
  • Get the student involved in something they are interested in outside of school. e.g sport, music, art etc.
  • Ask the school to negotiate seating position in class / or hang positions in the playground.